I personally think genuine guilt could be healthy, but the way Kylo Ren does it feels wallowing, even masturbatory. Making other people’s lives about his goddamned feelings that will do no one any good at all since he won’t act on them.
To clarify I don’t think Finn was actually proud or arrogant, rather I mean racist and cultural distortions could lead people to perceive him as such. “Uppity,” to draw on a word that has been used in ugly and violent ways against Black people.