Tag: ask

I don’t think its nice to be so arrogant in your tags when people are just asking you about shipping reylo, there are some of us who are uncomfortable with following a reylo and we would like to know where you stand

I have said where I stand. Many many times. Go read any one of those posts if you really want to know. I mean do you consider someone who hates the whole idea of reylo and really fucking hates that section of fandom to be a reylo? If someone who dislikes reylo so much and calls them out regularly is an anti, then I’m an anti. Am I both?

Or, like, consider a third possibility: maybe you can both dislike a thing deeply and explore those feelings of dislike and distaste through fanworks. By your logic, anyone who writes about rape is a rape apologist and anyone who writes about abuse is an abuse apologist. If your thinking is that simplistic and out of touch with reality then yeah, you shouldn’t follow me.

By even considering reylo you are doing what you claim to be against, I’m sorry but seeing someone so loud about being an anti and then it appears they ship reylo even if its aus or whatever makes me wary and wonder when are you genuine about repulsed by reylo fandom’s bullshit or just want to cater to the anti community

What did I claim to be against? I have never, not once, said people should not ship reylo. I have repeatedly said people can ship what they want. I have spoken against erasing and demonizing Finn. I have spoken against whitewashing, I’ve spoken against woobifying a villain, I have spoken against abuse apologism and war crimes apologism. If you think I have done any of these things I have been against, you’ll have to explain how.

If you don’t think I’m genuine in being repulsed by the crap thay goes on in reylow fandom then nothing I say can convince you. I don’t say this to blame you, you probably have good reason to be wary and I’m certainly not automatically entitled to anyone’s trust. I mean, just literally, I can’t say anything to convince you. There’s nothing I can say in one post that would outweigh what I’ve said in the three previous asks I’ve gotten on the subject, to say nothing of 2.5 years of fandom blogging.

If you think anyone who even entertains thoughts of reylo (even in disgust) or creates reylo content (even ones critical of the whole idea) is not worth your trust, then you should by no means trust me. And again, you must have your reasons for that, so listen to yourself. Trying to make yourself trust someone you have already lost faith in is not fair to you, and repeatedly demanding proof beyond the honest answers I’ve already given is not fair to me.

By saying “what is shipping anyways” it seems like you’re trying to avoid the question. The fact that you have headcanons and have thought about the possible outcomes of it all is pretty telling. If you ship it just say it so we can know who we can and can’t trust. Don’t try to excuse yourself.

It’s not like there was an entire elucidation of the different meanings of shipping right below, right? I have said exactly where I stand on each of those senses, so if anything it was the opposite of an evasion. If you can see me say I would abandon SW if reylow became canon, that I think it’s abusive and toxic, that their bs widdle woobie Ben Solo only exists to erase Finn, if you’ve seen me rail against reylows’ abuse apologism, war crimes apologism, misogyny, and racism for close to three years now and you still can’t trust me–then you won’t trust me no matter what. Simple as that.

So you ship rey/lo then?

What even is the meaning of shipping? There are actually multiple meanings.

Canonshipping as endgame? Hell to the nooooo. As I have said multiple times, if that happens SW is dead to me.

Fanshipping? Only in the sense I think it’s a horrible abusive dynamic, and not even the most interesting I’ve seen tbh. Also the fan community for reylow is horrible and I’m not going near it.

Hateshipping might be an applicable term, as in I totally hate the idea and examining why can be interesting.

Crackshipping, kinda. I think that’s what it is at heart anyway. My Blurred Lines video is all kinds of (disturbing, horrible) crack.

Cope shipping might actually apply, since I experienced the kinds of isolation and gaslighting tactics Kylo used on Rey. Definitely not in the sense that I’m going to pretend it’s healthy and that shitty treatment equals love. I told that lie to myself for too long, and it almost destroyed my life. I’m definitely not going to tell that lie to others.

I literally don’t want anything set after Episode IX. These characters have been through enough. We’ve seen what Luke, Leia and Han got when they’d won their fight. The idea of that happening to Finn and Rey makes me want to throw up my hands and say “no more Star Wars.” Just show us what Finn and Rey’s child(ren) look like and close the timeline. Then maybe we can get some new canon Old Republic era content.

If IX is good or at least decent I’m going to close the book on that and say, that’s the end of it for me. John and Daisy are smart to say they won’t be doing any more.

The reason all the Aspies are cute and adorkable in fiction is because NTs can’t handle the secondhand embarrassment of our actual serious relationship destroying mistakes and I would literally die of firsthand embarrassment if I had to publish in detail the stupid things I did to alienate the girl I liked so yeah I get it

I’m pretty bad about second hand embarrassment too, especially for characters I identify with XD