This is the exchange this ask and the prior ask are referring to, by the way.
I mean, we all have our wishes. All that abuse survivors who are antis ask is that Reynos stop romanticizing abuse…
All that fans of color who are antis ask is that Reynos stop replacing Finn with Kylo Ren…
All that decent fucking human beings ask is that Reynos stop justifying actual war crimes (and yes, false moral equivalence counts)…
And what were they told? That they were oversensitive. That other survivors/fans of color/people (who are not so oversensitive) did not feel the same so they were Wrong. That they should filter the #reyno tag (ignoring the fact that there is no good way to do this on mobile).
In this context the reyno shipper’s request was not based on shared empathy or humanity. It was emotional exploitation, pure and simple, a demand for one-sided consideration where none had been given in the other direction.
So yeah, you bet your ASS I was an asshole about it. Empathy is a two-way street, and I have very little to spare for someone who has consistently and wilfully refused to give any.
But you know what? I didn’t tell her she was oversensitive. I didn’t tell her her concerns were invalid because I felt differently in a comparable situation. I didn’t tell her to filter the anti tag. I do not take kindly to the kind of exploitation she was attempting, but I agreed to her request. Which is more than shippers including her have ever been willing to do for antis.
It took me so many years and so many hurts to see through and stand up to emotional manipulation, and I am never going to be less than brutally honest–and yes, an asshole–when I see it happen.
If you don’t like that, the unfollow and block buttons are free. Buh-bye!
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