i dont want girls sexualising mlm relationships anymore. at all
i dont want them fetishizing our relationships bc they think it’s sexy
i dont care if its a “way for them to express their sexuality”. that aint right and its messed that they can say that they want men in the porn industry to stop fetishizing wlw relationships, only to do the same bc its “fandom”
can yall please reblog this actually ??
bc like. im a boy attracted to boys. and this is making me uncomfortable and i want it to stop
and im not the only one ? a handful of people have agreed with me and im sure there are more
please dont ignore this bc you want to keep writing/drawing/reading m/m porn…. or bc im a boy and you dont care what i have to say….. especially if you disagree with the treatment of wlw in the porn industry its a double standard and this is important to me and i dont want it to be swept under the rug
Add on: you can still write, draw and read about mlm without fetishizing them. By fetishization, OP means that you only see these relationships as sexy and sinful instead of just seeing it as average everyday relationships.
Nearly every girl I’ve met within fandoms with mlm ships has only focused on the men having sex or calling them ‘my nasty gay babies’ and that’s just gross.
We’re all writers here so I thought it important that y’all see this and take note.
I recently heard the news that Adam by Ariel Schrag will be getting a movie. I read the book myself about a year and a half ago and I cannot stress enough just how problematic it is.
Adam is a book about a cis boy pretending to be a trans man in order to trick a lesbian into dating him.
Adam goes to New York to stay with his lesbian sister for the summer, and while he’s there he meets trans men who consider themselves lesbians. At a party he meets a lesbian he thinks is pretty and in order to get into a relationship with her he lies and tells her he’s a pre transition trans man. Let’s make a list of some of the highlights from the book, shall we?
At the very beginning of the book his sister and her girlfriend visit home and Adam and his friend spies on them having sex.
Almost all the trans men in the book identify as lesbians, implying that they are still women because they haven’t transitioned yet.
Adam, a cis straight boy, tells a lesbian that he is a trans man to trick her into dating him.
Incidentally Adam is 17 I believe, pretending to be 21. His girlfriend is in the 23 range, I don’t recall exactly.
There are explicit sex scenes, the first of which involved Adam using an ace bandage to hold his erection down and using a strapon to have sex with her.
In the second one he claims to be using a strapon but is, in reality, using his actual penis.
Which is fucking rape.
The book doesn’t try to justify this, it somehow manages to do something worse.
This second scene is one of the last in the book. After he pulls out he lays down next to her and confesses that he’s not trans. She responds “I know.”
She says after they first had sex she started fantasizing about him as a “real guy” (yes quote) and that the image stuck in her mind and she started subconsciously imagining him with a penis.
And it gets worse.
So he goes back to ohio and she sleeps with other girls (because for some reason she decides not to break up with this cis 17 year old who lied about his identity literally raped her) and one night he gets drunk and calls her a bitch and a fucking whore and whatever, and THAT’S apparently the point she thinks that maybe they should break up.
And one day they message eachother to catch up i think maybe he graduated at this point idk but hes planning on visiting his sister in new york and they wanna meet up and
She tells him about her new boyfriend.
Get ready for it
Cis. Man.
So. We have
An underage cishet boy lying about being an adult trans man in order to trick a lesbian into dating him!
A scene in which he actually rapes her!
The lesbian in question becomes attracted to cis men making Adam, essentially, conversion therapy!
Do NOT support Adam (2018)
Ariel Schrag used to sometimes be in my high school for some reason, so I’ve met her in person and let me tell you with just one look at her it becomes obvious that she sees trans men as an advanced form of butch women
Ugh, this is both lesbophobic AND transphobic. Every single bit of this is gross. Just when you thought Hollywood was getting “better” it pulls this shit.
Google Books summary:
“But then he meets Gillian, the girl of his dreams. If only she weren’t a lesbian! And if only she didn’t believe he was really (sort of) a girl.”
Why are things so gross and terrible.
The cover of this book includes the following endorsement by Alison Bechdel: “The sexual revolution is finally over, and Ariel Schrag has won.”
… K alison, whatever you say.
Also according to other reviews it is really racist, including the n word and the phrase “weird Asian pussies”
Also the character described himself as half Jewish and there is someone with a “jew fetish”.
I kissed behind his ear (and then he punched me in the arm, he’s shy in public) and I heard one of them whisper to the other something along the lines of “We get to see close up yaoi on here!”.
(Neither of us are even Japanese)
I was kinda offended, so I took my boyfriend by the hand and left.
It made us feel very uncomfortable.
I just want to say:
Our love and relationship isn’t for your entertainment.
Nor is it here for you to fetishize and sexualize.
Please just keep your “yaoi xDD” to just fiction, and please do not call us “yaoi”.
Many dismiss this as not a problem, which I find rude as they have never experienced this so they don’t really have much to say against this.
Thank you for reading.
– Submitted by Anonymous
* ^^^ Sorry to hear that anon D: that’s pretty terrible.
Really? I guess being accepted is just as bad as being hated. I bet of the girls had hissed in disgust he’d be sobbing and ranting about acceptance.
Having straight people only see you as fap material isn’t acceptance you fucking homophobic walnut
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I don’t care who you are, if you complain about the amount of attention Black Lives Matter and Black issues get you are antiblack. “But Native Americans!” “But Asians!” Shut up. Tearing down Black people does not help any other community. Yes it can be frustrating when issues you care about don’t get enough focus, but I promise it’s not Black people’s activism that’s getting in your way. Do your own work and don’t act entitled to what gains Black activists have achieved. You’re not as progressive or nice as you think you are if you’re willing to use Black people as a scapegoat.
Black sjws have to have the whole world revolving around themselves even as they half heartedly insist they support all poc… what else is new?
Even with all the bad stuff Natives especially have gone through and today still may deal with y’all need to be the main victims in the spotlight 200% of the time and ignore that privilege.
This ^^
@checkyourracismtmblr congratulations for being the EXACT embodiment of the attitude I was criticizing in the op.
Calls Black people spoiled and privileged? Check.
Deliberately conflates hypervisibility and privilege? Check.
Erases and ignores Black people’s support for and solidarity with other poc? Check.
Expects Black people to serve everyone but themselves? Check.
Uses Native people’s suffering to tear Black people down? Check.
This last one, by the way, is a rhetorical tactic used by actual KKK members like Asa Earl Carter. “Blacks, [Carter] said, were undeserving compared with the patient and brave Indians, who had suffered terrible wrongs inflicted by the Yankees. ‘I heard him say many times that blacks don’t know what it is to be mistreated… . The Indians have suffered more.’”
Ok, guys
Every time when I look at Godfrey Gao I see Magnus Bane. I can’t control it. I just feel that he suits perfectly for that role. Just look at this piece of art!
He’s the REAL Magnus.
I know most of you will start yelling at me with smth like “how u dare?” “Harry is perfect!” And bla bla bla. Well, ok, I don’t mind. About your yelling 🙂
You can endlessly tell me that I’m wrong or whatever but I won’t change my point of view even if you don’t give a fuck about that.
Godfrey is gorgeous. He has that kind of gloss & luxury, it is in his manners and I’m sure if he would have more screen time in The Mortal Instruments you would be agreed with me.
For me he’s one and only Magnus Bane.
I’m not against Harry. He’s good. That’s it. He’s good at that role. Not perfect. Feel the difference? I do. And take a notice, please, I don’t insult him. Just see the details. I’m sure, he’s nice person, but I’m not talking about what kind of person he is and about how he managed with role of Magnus Bane. No more.
I also avoid the idea that it’s screen writers’ gaffe. They don’t let Harry open his all potential or show Magnus in a strange way. Perhaps that’s the point.
Or maybe I’m right and it’s Godfrey’s role lol
*signs* anyway, my words can’t change anything. We’ve got what we’ve got. Despite it I will watch Shadowhunters, I will love Malec. Even without Godfrey in it lol
IMHO
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So, the point here is that Godfrey is a “better” Magnus because he’s “hotter” than Harry?
Lmao, this post is so fetishistic, that I don’t even want to bother. Apparently, it supposed to sound like a compliment to Godfrey, but it really isn’t, because fetishism / exotification isn not a compliment. It never is,
HahaHahAhaHa “gloss & luxury.”
More proof that East Asians are no more than another exotic item to these fetishizing “fans.”
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