Tag: gendered slur

vellicour:

cuntybisexual:

succubarbie:

there is no healthy explanation for an extremely low sex drive or asexuality. to be disconnected from your sexuality is a result of trauma that is in need of deep healing. to be disconnected from sex is to be disconnected from life itself. you cant walk around with trauma on that level and expect to ever experience true authenticity love and happiness

you know asexual inclusionists might be irritatingly cringeworthy at best and violently homophobic at worst but saying blatantly wrong things like this isn’t the way to deal with that lol… “to be disconnected from sex is to be disconnected from life itself” like you do realize that this is an extremely harmful thing to say right? to imply that not enjoying sex is inherently a trauma or a pathology? to claim that you can’t experience joy or happiness or authenticity without being sexual? i thought we learned in feminism 101 that people don’t need to be sexual to be true to themselves lol

I think that what @succubarbie is referring to here is the fact that modern psycho-social theories observe that sex is of the basest physiological needs for humans, within the same category as food and sleep. I’m not sure what “disconnected from life” means but people can of course be alive and experience love without sex. Though, it is very psychologically and physically detrimental. In the arbitrary cases of abuse or unhealthy relationships however, celibacy can have more positive benefits than sex.

Imagine thinking sex is a need. This is the rhetoric of cheaters, rapists, and incels. Aphobes are really out there perpetuating relationship abuse and rape culture huh?

Hey op, go step on a whole floor full of spilled legos. Thanks for furthering ace people’s sense of brokenness and wrongness with this baseless bullshit.

For the record I disagree with @cuntybisexual’s exclusionism too, though at least they have the decency not to be out-and-out aphobic. If anything the thought process in the op is a good reason why aces are part of the LGBTQIA community.

lj-writes:

Can I geek out about K.J. Harper for a second? I have to admit, in her first appearance I wondered “What the hell kind of show is this?” when she was shown to be a lush and daytime drinker whose job performance was suffering for her habit. I wasn’t used to women characters being presented this way, especially Black women professionals.

Then the more I got into the show the more I understood her, though I’m only on Episode 3 so I’m sure there’s more to come. It’s a timely and necessary portrayal, too, with mental health and substance abuse being a problem in the legal profession. PTSD among professionals who deal with the suffering of others, from EMTs to reporters, is an underappreciated epidemic as well.

And the layers on this woman, just wow. You get a glimpse of her brilliance and passion behind the burnout and the cynicism, the up-and-coming prosecutor she must have been before the work got to her, and then you can see the trauma slam down behind her eyes and it’s in the way she talks, in the way she can’t make eye contact all of a sudden… Clare-Hope Ashitey’s performance is a standout here and I am riveted.

K.J.!!!! You brilliant, brave, batshit bitch, I LOVE YOU

lj-writes:

lj-writes:

I challenge that particularly awful Re/ylo to come out and say John worships white pus*y. Be consistent, you nasty fuck.

Something about Finnreys and/or antis worshipping white p*ssy because we ship Finnrey over Finnrose. It was so ugly I didn’t reblog and tried to forget about it, but I remember the post was made and who made it.

@shannanigansandmisadventures I wouldn’t be surprised if that’s a party line among them, since the particular post I saw was by a fairly popular blog. I had Rose/TLJ stans stalk my blog for weeks too, for writing properly tagged posts criticizing the character and the movie.