All that fracas about my Finnrey meta has kinda made me want to write one about how Rey’s arc in TFA and TLJ is about growing up and letting go of childish things, her longing for her family and her belief that they cared about her and step into the adult world of responsibilities. But that it’s still emotionally satisfying because it does give her what she originally wanted, someone who loves her and comes back for her in Finn. It’s just not in the way she originally thought it would be.
And that when she meets Finn again at the end of TLJ it’s no longer as the child who seeks to run off and have her fairy tale happy ending without consequences or responsibilities, but as a young woman with commitments and responsibilities of her own.
People will point to her insistence that they see the BB-8 mission through in TFA as proof that she was already responsible and a grownup–but that wasn’t what was going on. She was bound by her desire to go back to Jakku, not commitment to the Resistance’s cause. She was looking to be her parents’ child again, not a grownup responsible for others. This is completely understandable and sympathetic because she had her childhood ripped from her and never got to be protected and cherished the way children should be. It’s very hard to grow up when you weren’t able to be a child first, and Rey’s story in many ways is about that difficult journey.
I never got that argument. When Rey runs off from Maz’s castle in TFA BB-8 follows her and corners her when she stops.
Rey: What are you doing?
BB-8: *clearly wants to know what she’s up to*
Rey: You have to go back.
BB-8: *asks something*
Rey: I’m leaving
BB-8: *wants to come with her*
Rey: You can’t. You have to go back, you’re too important.
This doesn’t sound like someone who’s prepared to invest in the Resistance and who’s already ditched the idea of going back to Jakku. She’s at this point, which comes after the Force back and after Finn has left too, literally saying to BB-8 that she’s going back and not to the Resistance.
She was willing to take the droid to the Resistance, with Finn. I think that’s the crucial point for her. He was the first person who showed any kind of concern for her, but now he’s gone and with him her reason for staying and moving on with the mission.
And notice she only gave “we have to complete the mission” as a reason when she still thought Finn was a Resistance fighter. She thought invoking the Resistance’s mission would get him to stay because that’s what he was committed to do. Once he revealed he wasn’t Resistance she no longer brought up the mission because it no longer mattered to her, as you point out. This wasn’t irresponsible or heartless of her; thanks to her efforts, BB-8 already had people to take him back to the Resistace. Now that she had gotten BB to this point it wasn’t her concern anymore, Finn was. And with Finn lost to her she was going to go back to her hopeless waiting, the only chance she had at being loved and cared for again.
And then Kylo Ren appeared, the dark Cupid that brought them back togetherAlso lmao this means Finnrey as a romance, unlike Reylow, passes the “Twilight test,” excerpted by @elaine-spades (link): the female protagonist wants something for herself, is proactive about getting it, and succeeds or fails as a result. The poster in the excerpt even says helping Finn would have been a valid motivation for Rey, but RJ had to be too clever by half and make it obscure as hell. I don’t blame the audience for not getting it, another case of “color-blind” writing not working out as @diversehighfantasy has discussed in Screw the Slow Burn (link).
Actually what she says after Maz says that the two pirats can get Finn to the Outer Rim if that’s where he wants to go and Finn for the first time says “Rey, come with me” is,
“What about BB-8. We have to get him back to your base.” (Emphasis mine.)
Then when Finn goes to the pirates and Rey confronts him:
Rey: “What are you doing?”
then
“You can’t go. I won’t let you.”
Also earlier when Han after they escape the Guavian Death Gang and Kanji Klub asks them, “Fugitives eh?” Rey replies:
“The First Order wants the map. Finn is with the Resistance, I’m just a scavenger.”
Rey constantly separates herself from the mission. It isn’t hers, she’s just kinda along for the ride because she got dragged into it and well, Finn is really kinda cute and he’s the only person who’s shown concern and affection for her.
Not only does she separate herself from the mission, constantly pointing out that it is Finn’s mission not hers, her words to Finn just before his confession makes it pretty clear that for her it is not about the mission as such, it’s about him.
–You can’t leave. I won’t let you.
Sorry, those are not the words of someone who’s committed to a mission. It’s about her – Rey – who can’t bear to see another person she’s begun to love leave her behind.
Yup, while Rey was excited at the idea of the Resistance/Luke etc. that was a diversion for her and a kindness to BB, not her main business which was to survive and wait for her parents. She might have been forced to leave under fire but the plan was always to go back.
I also think that was the reason she wouldn’t leave with Finn. While she was strongly drawn to him, he hadn’t yet proven to be the one who would come back for her no matter what. I think more than anything, at their parting on Takodana, she wanted time; time to figure out what their relationship was as this was very new to both of them after all; time to talk about what they each wanted; time maybe even to convince her to come back to Jakku with her? (Though like, he wasn’t too excited about that obviously.) But she wouldn’t leave with him, not right then, because she couldn’t be sure she was ready to leave her chance at family behind for a man she had just met.
I believe all this changed on Starkiller Base when Chewie, the universe’s biggest Finnrey shipper in all senses, told her it was Finn’s idea to come back for her. She had seen how afraid Finn was of the First Order, and now she knew it was for a damned good reason. But he still came back for her.
This was the moment the equation changed and Jakku dropped out of the picture, to be replaced by Finn as her chance at knowing the kind of love and safety she had craved all her life. That, I believe, was what drove her throughout TLJ. The First Order is a threat to everyone, but it and Kylo Ren have a particular hatred of Finn because he represents an existential threat to them. (Random thought: Is the main FO fleet so irrationally and foolishly fixated on eradicating the tiny Resistance in part because they know the Resistance is protecting Finn? Was that one reason Rose was so angry at him for trying to leave, and couldn’t seem to let go of a simmering resentment at him almost to the end of the movie?) With the FO still out there Rey and Finn would not be safe no matter where they went. She was trying to protect Finn and her future together with him.













