It’s so funny that people who talk about Finn “fixating” or “obsessing” unhealthily over Rey fail to recognize that Rey fixated to a far greater extent on Finn. Remember Takodana? Finn was the one who accepted Rey’s decision not to come with him and walked away from her like a normal, healthy person does
because he is not an abusive shithole who tells her she’s nothing trying to manipulate her into compliance.Rey was the one who didn’t want to part with a guy she had just metbut she also did not assault or belittle him to make him stay because she is not, despite her trauma and abandonment issues, an entitled and unbalanced woman who thinks it’s okay to impose her will on others.Yeah, Finn went back for her when it was clear she was abducted and in imminent danger, like a good and brave person does for someone they love. How is that unhealthy or weird again?But Rey? Did you forget the part where she searched the woods on Starkiller Base to find a wounded Finn, except it wasn’t to rescue him or anything–the planet was disintegrating around her and she wasn’t looking for the Falcon, trying to carry Finn to safety, or even drawing attention so a passing Resistance vessel might see them. At the end of her mental and physical resources, having retraumatized herself in the fight by confronting her greatest fear, she gave up hope and simply lay down on her beloved friend (whom she had known for a day), crying. For all intents and purposes she had found him to die with him.
To be clear her reaction is fully understandable and sympathetic, like mentally ill lovestruck teenager helloooo, but if you want to talk about an unusually intense fixation on a new friend that’s clearly Rey toward Finn way more than the other way around. My weirdo space nerd girl out-weirds out-dramas her gorgeous space hero any day of the week and I love her for it, okay?

Listen I get what you’re saying, but also consider: she wasn’t just willing to die with Finn, she searched through the woods to find him (leaving Kyle to get blown up alone ha ha), flip him onto his back, check his heartbeat–faint, so faint, but there–and then collapsed onto his chest sobbing. What kind of magnificently overdramatic Ophelia shit… ok actually more Hamlet shit, but you get my drift.
Consider further: She didn’t even try to find the Falcon on her own and get help for Finn. She had a handy-dandy light-generating doohickey right on her in the middle of a very dark wood, yet did not try to wave it for passing ships to see. If the wood cover was a problem she could have climbed a tree and we know she can climb. And while I’m sure carrying Finn was a daunting proposition especially in her state of complete exhaustion, literally her first appearance had her dragging very heavy scrap parts on a starvation diet. Finding the Falcon or flagging down a passing ship would have been better options in terms of time and effort, but carrying Finn wasn’t impossible if she couldn’t bear to let him out of her sight (or arms).
The scavenger Rey, the survivor, would have thought of all these options and ten times more in less time than it took you to say “character arc!” Who knows, maybe she was running through them in the back of her mind. But she was tired, so tired, and what’s more, Rey the survivor was surviving for a reason: to wait for the people who would come back for her. And now someone had, and she was with him at last, and not only was she too tired to try anymore–she saw no reason to. She had what she wanted, right there, even if he might not be able to smile or laugh or cry with her, or hug her. There’s no more thought of going back to Jakku, of trying and striving and hurting. Here in enemy territory on the verge of annihilation she is safer than at any time in memory, and she just wants to stay right here in this moment that is about to melt into forever.
It’s a beautiful and bittersweet culmination of her story, and it is very much her death–one of those situations where the character has chosen death and is for intents and purposes dead but plucked out by divine machination, as you said, for the need of the next film/episode/book. She, like Finn, has found something bigger than survival, because what they really wanted to live for was love. Now that they had found it they found it was worth dying for. They found it in each other.
