So we’re all on board with being anti-patriarchy. Anti-toxic masculinity. We all understand damage done to us by a world that grooms men to be destructive and aggressive. We understand creating spaces free from that force.
We do a disservice to *all* trans and non-binary people when our response to that is limited to the celebration and prioritization of women and the rejection and hatred of men.
What we create when this is the extent of our response is:
– a space where non-cis people are terrified of their own masculinity and their own relationship to male identity.
– a space where non-women are terrified of their own love for girls.
– a space where EVERYONE is terrified of their own love for boys.
– a space where in order to feel accepted or okay, people must define themselves as related to women.
– a space where in order to talk about gendered oppression, people must define themselves as related to women.
– a space where attraction only feels “wholesome” or “pure” or celebrated at all if it’s attraction between two girls.
– a space where non-binary people are forced to identify with the binary in order to participate in the queer community.
– a space where people’s goodness and badness, purity and toxicity, is measured by how much they look like a girl or like a boy.
Feel free to add your own.
– a space that fosters hostility towards trans guys and men aligned nonbinary people, as well as (and most especially) trans women, for ever experiencing “male privilege” (TERF rhetoric)
– a space that is reductive towards the complex experiences trans people face before discovering the identity, while being closeted, and even while passing, that often involves aspects that are unique to being trans
– a space that forces multiple gendered people to prioritize the woman or feminine aspects of identity even if that may be dysphoria inducing in the name of eradicating internalized misogyny
– a space where gender euphoria when it relates to masculinity is dismissed as privilege, and praised when it relates to femininity
– a space where men are discouraged from ever rectifying any toxic or bad behavior, because don’t you know, they’re evil by nature?
– a space where anyone who’s been hurt by a man is victim-blamed, because sweetie, he’s a man, shouldn’t you have known better?
– a space where traditional, patriarchal femininity is elevated because men are bad, at the expense of anyone who can’t fit that femininity
– a space that can’t come up with any kind of non-toxic masculinity, because masculinity is toxic by default, and therefore contributes absolutely nothing to actually dismantling toxic masculinity.
-a space that tells men they have nothing to contribute (and therefore nothing they need contribute) to dismantling the patriarchy except being quiet and staying out of the way
-a space where cis dudes feel just as terrified of their own masculinity and their own relationship to male identity
-a space where people are discouraged from seeking support from the men in their lives, especially about gender issues
-a space where we know we dislike the status quo, but can’t fully articulate a vision for the future
-a space where domestic abuse survivors are shunned and silenced
-a space where rape survivors are shunned and silenced
-a space that encourages distrust, paranoia, and out and out hatred of half the population, as no one can never interact with a man ever again
-a space that shames bisexuals, pansexuals, and queer people for their attraction
How to make your ramen 9001x better, courtesy of /ck/
And you can buy roast beef and roast chicken on the internet. I am set for ramen for like a year now.
QUICK EGG IN UR RAMEN TRICK MY FRIEND TAUGHT ME IN HIGH SCHOOL
pour just enough water into your pot to cover your noodles and other ingredients, then get a small cup/fancy measuring 1 cup cup or w/e and measure out another cuppa watta. dump that shit in too.
make ur ramen. just start boiling and dump whatever you’re supposed to put in in the beginning. u know how to make ramen this isn’t ramen for snot nosed sobbing beginners ok
KEY PART: you know how it says on the back of the package to cook for about 4-5 minutes?? we’re cooking for 5 minutes. wait for your ramen to cook for the first three minutes. stare hungrily if you must. but the EXACT MOMENT 3 minutes hit here’s what you do:
SCREAM. and then stir your noodles to make sure nothing is sticking to the bottom of the pot. (scream is optional) also make sure your broth is still more or less covering your noodles, if its not add a bit more. it doesn’t matter if some is still sticking up we just don’t want chewy noodles (unless you’re into that) (i’m into that)
make a lil hole in your noodles. this little hole must have broth in it and nothing more. make it in the middle or the side it honestly doesn’t matter you just need a clear shot to the bottom of the pot
crack your egg and toss that mother into the hole.
COVER EGG WITH NOODLES AS QUICK AS YOU CAN
DON’T. STIR.
I SWEAR TO GOD IF YOU STIR FOR THE REMAINING MINUTE AND A HALF YOU probably won’t ruin anything you’ll just have egg drop soup i guess but IF YOU DON’T STIR
Congratulations, you have poached an egg in your broth! Your poached egg now tastes like your ramen broth. Revel in your victory.
no seriously that egg will be mildly chewy deliciousness oh my god if you can perfect this technique you will never have your egg in your ramen another way again
this is as close as you’ll get to ramen made in a restaurant…
I’m just glad this isn’t like that one post that was all “HOW TO EAT CHEAP WITH RAMEN STEP ONE ADD A SIRLOIN STEAK AND $20 WORTH OF INGREDIENTS”.
This is how you can tell I’m poor as fuck.
Most dried ramen is deep-fried which is why it’s so unhealthy. If you boil in plain water, strain, and then add to fresh hot water/broth, it’s a lot better for you in general.
Another recipe:
Boil your noodles. Strain. Take a small frying pan and melt two tablespoons of butter (margarine works but butter is better) on low heat. Add the noodles and flavor powder and mix well.
ANOTHER recipe:
Get a bag of frozen stir-fry veggies from wal-mart. It’s like a buck fifty. Fry those suckers up with some tonkatsu sauce or soy sauce. Boil your ramen, strain. Pile the noodles on a plate, top with your veggies and sauce. Sprinkle a tiny bit of the ramen flavoring on top. Bam, stir fry. The veggies make enough to serve three people (three packages of ramen).
Other things you can add to ramen to make it taste better:
Chopped inarizushi.
A half a can of peas.
A half a can of tunafish to the shrimp kind.
CHIVES MAKE EVERYTHING BETTER.
Oddly enough, boiled potatoes to the beef kind.
Shredded cabbage.
Sliced boiled eggs.
Matchstick carrots (you can get them from most grocery stores for like a dollar a package; alternately make your own from a cheap-ass bag of whole carrots).
If you’re gluten-free, you can make a gluten-free version of ramen by making and preparing spaghetti squash and using the bullion recipe above (substitute anything with gluten in it for something without, obviously). The “noodles” are smaller but damn is it tasty. Spaghetti squash, incidentally, grows at the least provocation so if you get a spaghetti squash (which are generally kind of expensive), save the seeds and plant them anywhere. Water them once a day.
Spring-noodle soup, courtesy my husband’s Asian-American ex-girlfriend: Boil your ramen and strain. Heat up a can of soup broth, or simply prepare the ramen bullion. Dip the noodles into the broth forkful by forkful as you eat. You can add other stuff to the noodles, like veggies and meat, as you’re boiling it.
Saute some green onions and minced garlic in a pan in butter or margarine for a few minutes (you can substitute sesame oil for the butter or margarine as well, if you happen to have it around. The sesame oil gives it a really good flavor). Add a dash of seasoned salt. Boil and strain your ramen noodles. Add to the saute mix, fry for a hot second, and you have awesome garlic noodles.
Minute rice! You can add a small handful of minute rice to your ramen as it’s cooking for a more carb-heavy soup to get you through the day. If you couple this with veggies and meat it’s almost a round meal.
THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH RAMEN, but if you make macaroni and cheese (Kraft dinner), add a can of tunafish and a half a can of peas to it to make a more filling, more rounded meal.
Seriously, if you are broke and need to vary your diet in any way, I am the person to talk to. I grew up on this shit. A lot of is really unhealthy, but at least you won’t die of boredom.
Reylos that want to compare Kylo Ren to Snape can have that comparison if you ask me.
You think that Kylo/Reylo is just like Snape/Snily? Okay, great, that means that Kylo’s attracted to Rey but Rey knows he’s a jackass that wants to murder everybody she’s ever cared about and she’ll tell him to fuck off and leave her alone and then he’ll be sad and do something good before dying, but he won’t do anything good because he has good morals, because he does not have good morals, he just knew that the woman he had a creepy crush on would’ve wanted him to do that one good thing. He won’t be redeemed because he’ll never see the error of his ways, but a bad writer may act like that is redemption even though he only ever did anything good to make himself feel better (to get rid of his feelings of guilt).
And Rey will go on to marry Finn, somebody who actually loves and respects her. And she will never feel like she owes Kylo anything because he’s legitimately a bad person and she was only mistaken when she thought he could be a good person.
Engagement photos! I envision this as an AU Finnrey taking their engagement pictures and goofing off, but unable to hide how happy and in love they are.
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