Reasoned debate vs blind panic

themandalorianwolf:

lj-writes:

I’m as Finnrey as they come. No other romantic pairing for either of them will work for me. Any short search of my blog will feature love of Finnrey and hatred of reylow, doomrey, finnlow, etc.

That said, I do think it’s fair, and probably necessary, to discuss the optics of Finnrey and why so much was changed in the movies.

I wrote a post a long time back asking how Finnrey fandom could be more welcoming and supportive, particularly to black fans who at that time were getting inundated with racist messages from reylows. I received a lot of good feedback. Well that post seems to be making the rounds again because a couple of black fans reached out and we’ve been conversing. Neither of these fans likes Finnrey. Both of them feel it follows the shopworn “black man lusts after white woman because white” trope and that Rey’s feelings really aren’t comparable. I understood in part, but as I’m not black I couldn’t understand completely. To me, it seemed obvious that both of them cared deeply for one another, and I really understand what “not comparable” meant.

Then one of these fans said to me that if the Finnrey dynamic was more like in the TFA novel they might have shipped it. That confused me more, since this was a novelization of the movie they said they did not like the Finnrey dynamic in. I was told to read it and I would understand better. I borrowed it and finally got a chance to read it.

They were right. I now understand.

As Finnrey fans, I do think there is a place for debate about why the novelization made it so much more explicit that Rey found Finn attractive and was falling in love with him. I think it is fair to ask why the clunky “my friend” was added when “We’ll see each other again, I believe that, Finn” or even just “We’ll see each other again” would have sufficed. The bedside scene in the novelization was much more that of a woman leaving her love to go off on an adventure. It was a subversion of the Odysseus trope and worked well. “My friend” seemed tacked on, 19 year olds don’t talk that way, and when I first heard it I did think it odd. Having now read the novelization, I think it’s more than odd, and it seems like something JJ was told to insert.

I’m writing all this to you because one of the takeaways from my original post to the fandom was that black fans said they often felt marginalized and that their concerns are not taken seriously in the fandom, particularly about race and racism. Obviously since the person was anon, who knows who it was, but that doomrey anon you just answered? That person said almost exactly what one of the black fans I recently spoke to said, that it was possible Rey will be made to realize her feelings for Finn were not love, and that Poe makes her “tingle” in a way that Finn didn’t. That the “my friend” business was an out LF gave itself to extricate itself from having to follow through with Finnrey, they can always say Rey only felt friendship for him.

I was told that several black fans left Finnrey fandom after TLJ because of Finn’s overall treatment and because it seemed to them that the Poe and Rey meeting was meant to be significant in more ways than just, they’re meeting finally. I respectfully disagreed, feeling that 10 seconds and smiles didn’t negate all that Finn had gone through with her. The response to that was that LF had decided to make Finn a joke in TLJ so why would it be so far fetched to use him as a starter boyfriend of sorts for Rey that she could measure her feelings for in comparison to Poe and realize she liked Poe “that way” more.

You said to that anon that doomrey would be shitty storytelling. I agree 100%. I also know Daisy herself has said she does not want doomrey at all. But Finn stumbling around leaking bacta was also shitty storytelling, so was him getting tased and the suicide run that wasn’t. Yet we got all of those and much more shit in TLJ.

I think there can be reasoned debate and discussion about LF’s racism making them not care that they derail the story – and doomrey would definitely be derailing it – just so long as they appease their racist fan base who don’t want to see a black man and a white woman romantically involved, and hysterical anons declaring that the first scene of IX will be of Poe zipping up and Rey rising from off screen wiping her mouth. Several black fans feel as that anon does, that Finn might be used by LF as Rey’s romance barometer and she decided that Finn was cool but Poe really makes her knickers wet. These are not “secret doomreys” these are black fans who are angry that Finn might be discarded because of racism. So yes, while doomrey would be an awful follow to the story being told, when has that stopped LF before, is their point. It’s a good one.

It’s fine if you don’t want that discourse on your blog. But I wanted to write because I’ve been trying to be more mindful of not dismissing ideas contrary to mine, particularly on regards to racism. That doomrey anon could have, and possibly was, been written by any of the black Finnrey and former Finnrey fans who expressed the same sentiment to me privately and I think that instead of dismissing it, the fears of some black fans should be recognized, even if you don’t agree with the substance.

This was really depressing to read, but honestly you have a point. As a black fan, if you told me after TFA what would happen to Finn in TLJ, I would’ve called you a freaking idiot, but look what happened.

Honestly it sounds petty, but if Doomrey or Reylow happens, and Finn just has another TLJ situation, I’m done with Star Wars.

Ever since Finn popped his head up in the TFA trailer, people have been trying to race him and his relevance since. I can’t even comment on YouTube how I was disappointed about Finn’s treatment or him not being confirmed as Force sensitive, without getting in a Internet debate about how Finn is in a supporting character, but the co-protagonist.

I might like TFA and even defend it, but there are still things that bother me and it. Like Finn, an elite soldier, getting put into a coma, and I did hate that “my friend” line. So if IX goes south, i’m just going to give up on the fandom and never watch the sequel movies again. Star Wars can still white if that’s what they want.

ewokkey:

ekjohnston:

myonecomplaint:

rj-anderson:

waiting4morning reblogged your post and added:

“antireylos:

rey’s expression when she sees kylo taking off his mask…”

I wonder if what’s throwing people off is that normally a scene like this WOULD be overtly sexual. People are expecting to see it because it is so stupidly common in modern media and therefore are seeing it even when it’s not there.

Ding ding ding ding ding! I believe that is EXACTLY what is going on. Which makes a lot of fandom discourse fraught with peril because what’s being argued about is not necessarily what was shown in the script / novelization / film, but what the viewer expects or believes must have been intended by the characters, the actors or the filmmakers in some subtle or even subconscious way because that’s just how these things go. And there’s really no way to argue with that, even if one happens to disagree.

Yes ding ding, but also oops on the filmmakers part. When such a huge swath of filmgoers interpret the moment as thus, the filmmakers missed. They are as aware of this trope as you and I, or more so, and should have foreseen this reaction and even revised to dodge. I think.

Full disclosure: the two people above me in this post are my friends. I’m not trying to start something, because I know we are coming at this from a mostly similar direction. But I have been sitting on a mass of feelings for hours, and I would like to get something off my chest. Here is your dissenting opinion:

You don’t get to tell me what I saw.

I saw a girl strapped to a chair, and I heard a guy say “You know I can take whatever I want”, and then, worse, I heard him say, “Don’t worry, I feel it too.”

And it wasn’t super gross. And it sure as hell wasn’t sexy. It was barely even sexualized. It was this casual, brutal, cold villainy, and more importantly: it was a fucking violation. Rape is not the same as sex, is not limited to sex (especially in a genre that thrives on metaphor and allegory), and what Ren did to Poe and to Rey (before she metaphorically kicked him in the balls), was rape.

He went into her dreams before she drove him out. Poe screamed in pain, and when Ren left him, he was unconscious.

It’s easy enough to silence girls (or boys, for that matter) when they tell you they have been assaulted. We see it happen all the time. “Are you sure?” “But what if he meant?” “I’m sure she didn’t” “It’s such a good family.”

You don’t get to tell me that I interpreted the scene wrong because of what I’m used to. You don’t get to tell me that it’s the writer’s fault for the way I feel. You don’t get to tell me that I was tricked or deceived or too stupid to notice what was really going on.

You don’t get to tell me what I saw.

Definitely buying her Padme book now. This is SPOT ON.

my dream opening for ix: rey waking up from a nightmare (maybe with kylo in it to mess with the ryelos), she’s obviously scared, panting hard, and then the room comes into focus and finn wakes up beside her, shirtless of course bc it’s what we deserve, asking softly “hey, are you alright?” it would perfectly establish the nature of their relationship now, esp if there’s a time jump and it would irrevocably be romantic. if only jj had the guts

ahsoakaaa-deactivated20180602:

YES YES YES A TRILLION TIMES YES!!! holy shit if jj does something like this i will kiss the ground he walks on

Things my brother has said to me since I’ve come out

rootbeergoddess:

love-in-mind-palace:

morgendaemmerung89:

spacebastille:

pyrilios:

badasscommanderleksa:

daeneryaastargaryen:

strawberryshortcakekitten:

Bro: You can’t say you’re pan if you’ve only dated cis-boys Jess..

Me: Then you can’t say you’re straight since you’ve never had a girlfriend

Bro: touche…

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Bro: so you like girls?

Me: yep

Bro: so youre gonna get a girlfriend?

Me: maybe

Bro: NOW I GOTTA COMPETE AGAINST YOU TOO?? 

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Bro: wanna bet on who kisses a girl first?

Me: sure… $10?

Bro: okay

Me: sweet…cough up the money because i already kissed three

Bro: WHAT?? WHO?? you whore…No but seriously who because we only have like 2 lesbians in our school….

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Bro: I SWEAR TO GOD IF I HEAR ONE MORE PUN ABOUT YOU AND KITCHENWEAR IM KILLING YOU

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Brothers friend: so your sister is pan?

Bro: yeah?

Friend: what’s that?

Bro: basically she’ll date anyone

Friend: think she’ll date me?

Bro: ew no, dude she has standered still..

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Bro: so…how was narnia?

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Mother: i dont want you going to (insert friend)’s house because you’re pan and they are too

Bro: shes 18 mom AND you had no problem with it before jess was out

Mother: yeah but-

Bro: and they’re both girls so its not like even if something DID happen she wouldn’t get pregnant or anything

Mother: yeah but-

Bro: just let her hang out with the one friend she still has

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Bro: *is complaning about something* Thats so ga- OH MY GOD IM SO SORRY IT SLIPPED

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Bro: *shows me a picture of a girl* do you think shes hot?

Me: ew no

Bro: I AM TRYING TO GET YOU A GIRLFRIEND STOP BEING PICKY WOMAN WE LIVE IN THE MIDDLE OF NO WHERE THERE ARENT THAT MANY OPTIONS 

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Me: *is complaining to my brother about this dude on campus* -anyways hes so not my type

Mother: but youre pan and ‘youre attracted to everyone regardless of gender’ so you dont have a type

Bro: thats like saying because i’m straight i like every girl mom…she can be pan and have types you limp lettuce

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Bro: do you think grandma will freak out when she finds out you’re queer?

Me: hopefully

Bro: sweet…..can i tell her??

Me: no?

Bro: dammit…

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Bro: *is playing COD online in his room* Guys seriously stop saying the F slur

Bro: Seriously i dont care about your kill streak, i will shoot you

Bro: NO SCOPE! I warned you!

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Bro: you know what my favorite part of you being pan is?

Me: what?

Bro: you’re no longer grandmas favorite…now i get all the money/food

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Bro: aw fuck

Me: what?

Bro: what if you get a girlfriend one day and she breaks your heart? i can’t punch a girl! 

Me: no thats okay-

Bro: HOW WILL I DEFEND YOUR HONOR???

This is so sweet actually

YOU LIMP LETTUCE 

^^^^^

YOU LIMP LETTUCE

Good bro! ❤

I lost it at limp lettuce

I’m using limp lettuce as an insult

queenbean03:

Okay I’ve had some time to think it over and here’s why I don’t like the “Rose is Pink Diamond” plot twist.

For one thing there wasn’t enough build up for it. Rose has been seen and mentioned since the beginning, but Pink Diamond wasn’t even confirmed to exist until far too late.

Second, it doesn’t make sense. There were so many other, better ways Pink could have saved the Earth. It makes all the gems who couldn’t tell who Rose really was for all those years look like idiots. It ruins the whole Rebellion by making its leader an imposter with selfish intentions. Pearl the renegade was loyal to her Diamond the entire time, Garnet was lied to by the first gem who accepted her, and Bismuth got bubbled for wanting to get rid of the other Diamonds and free all the gems. Because of Pink/Rose the Human Zoo exists, the Cluster exists, and the Corrupted Gems exist.

And now Steven is stuck with fixing all the messes his mother made because she didn’t want to do it herself.

I would have more faith in the show to treat all of this with the gravity it needs, but it’s proven too many times that it can’t do that. Despite how much damage Rose’s choices cause for others, the show never frames her as a bad person. We’re always expected to sympathize with Rose. The characters she hurts always forgive her or are punished for refusing to forgive. And since she’s not even around anymore no one can punish her for anything.

And the way the other Diamonds have been presented to us, I fully expect they’ll get the same treatment. This isn’t gray morality. This is treating characters who are objectively bad as “not that bad”.

So yeah I’m pretty much done with Steven Universe now. I might check in once in a while but I can’t enjoy it the way I used to before all of this happened.

supreme-leader-darth-tantrum:

So uhh, after episode 9 I’m out this bitch, like this is ridiculously stupid. They hired the two men who absolutely adore having women r*ped as plot devices, when Taika Waititi and Patty Jenkins are right. Fucking. There.

Listen I enjoy dark and gritty and realistic stories here and there but why do they have to do this to Star Wars, when it was always about hope and the good guys eventually winning and love and family.

I knew this was going to happen when Disney bought LF. I just knew it, and now look at what they’re doing. Milk that cow till the udders fall off I guess, but honestly this is all just so off putting.

Sorry guys, I’m normally not so negative about everything but this is just seriously the stupidest thing. I don’t want GOT style Star Wars, and after TLJ, I’m just so disappointed in the leaders at LF I’m not sure if they’re right for running this franchise and keeping with the theme’s that George Lucas started with in A New Hope.

finnobliterateshux:

finnpoerise:

guess i should thank rain j for turning poe into the “toxic male character” 😦

This sucks this whole article sucks and I’m so fucking tired that Rian managed to take an amazing, incredible, compassionate character and just kneel him down for every white feminist to take their gross ass pot-shot at him I fucking hate Rian I hate Lucasfilm I hate Kathleen I hate Disney and I hate Star Wars for giving us this utter garbage