bro, a lot of men NEED to go to therapy not just for their own sake but for the sake of every person they have power over in their lives
if you are a grown ass adult man and you refuse to handle your personal issues that directly negatively impact the people around in varying degrees of harm, even leading up to abuse, that’s YOUR responsibility to fix. no one is saying abusive men dont have ‘reasons’ to be the way they are, but that doesnt change the fact that no one who isnt them can fix their shit
Both sides, like I even could 😂 like reylows are ever going to give me the time of day after I exposed their pathetic asses again and again? I answered already in great and truthful detail, and any more demands for an answer will be deleted as the annoyances they are.
Look I am fully on board wih the aims of the Escape the Corset (탈코) movement in Korea. Women don’t need to cater to the male gaze and they shouldn’t be pressured to use all their time and energy to look pretty. It’s a very necessary movement and I hope it keeps up.
That said, there’s also a subset in the movement who are not just escaping the corset themselves but actively shaming women who do wear makeup and saying they’re not true feminists, their minds are enslaved and so on. Yes, anyone can be jerks about a movement and take it way too far, but there’s a clear trans-exclusionary undercurrent to this rhetoric against the reality where trans women are unable to be accepted as women at all unless they perform femininity to degrees far beyond cis women.
To be clear, trans women should not experience these pressures to be hyperfeminine, any more than cis women, and easing the ridiculous beauty pressure is good for all women. This isn’t about discrediting EtC or dismissing those who adhere to it as shrill bullies. It is not okay to invalidate the very real problems that prompted EtC by saying “I wear makeup because it makes me happy!” or such shit. Shut up. Not about you.
At the same time we can recognize that the trans-exclusionary part of the movement is using it to paint trans women as enemies of feminism and male oppressors, when makeup may be necessary for them in a way it is not for cis women.
The EtC movement is admirable and necessary. At the same time, please be on the lookout for ways activism can be co-opted to isolate and demonize some of our most vulnerable sisters. Please don’t forget trans women in your activism.
“korean feminism centers the rights, safety, comfort and life experience of females, why can’t these white korean feminists learn how important it is to protect feminine males by yielding to social constructs that harm them and watering down their rhetoric to make it more palatable to said males, how dare they recognize females as the social class that their activism serves, what is their fuckin problem”
You know, even aside from your ignorant generic TERF talking points and deliberate strawmanning, I love how you’re trying to tell me, a Korean feminist, that TERFs represent Korean feminism. Your blog is also full of terrifyingly violent transmisogyny and I am now blocking without further ado, bye.
I write a post about Escape the Corset, the feminist countermovement against South Korea’s oppressive and harmful beauty culture, and blogs shilling cosmetics start following me? Seriously?
I’m not sure if all versions released in China cut out Finn scenes, but I lived in a VERY mono-ethnic city (over 99% Han Chinese), and they were very proudly anti-black, so I’m not surprised that that province cut out a lot of his scenes/lines.
The scenes they cut were ones where he mainly appeared alone, as well as scenes where they would cut out some of his lines to make him appear less important. I also don’t remember seeing him hug Rey when he helps rescue her towards the end. I mostly remember that it left me feeling confused. Like, I could tell that the movie was missing something, that something had been edited. It wasn’t until I downloaded a Korean (? I think?) bootleg version of the movie that I was able to confirm that a lot of Finn’s scenes had been cut.
Again, I wish I could say that I was surprised, but I saw a lot of racist, anti-black shit going on in China that really saddened/disturbed me, as well as a creepy fetish and preoccupation with white people. There were restaurants with black face pictures on the walls. A black friend of mine was deported because his presence was “too frightening” (he was 6′5″ and 300 lbs which apparently made him a threat to public safety). Black people and even non-black Africans were banned from certain jobs (such as teaching English). My roommate (who was African American) was constantly belittled and called “dirty” by Chinese people. One time a woman grabbed my roommate’s arm and pointed out her skin to her child saying, “see? they don’t wash. that’s why their skin is black.” Honestly, I could go on and on with stories like that, stories of my black friends’ experiences in China, but there are too many to list here.
I’m white, so my experience in China was vastly different from that of my roommate’s or my other black friends. On the whole, I had a lot of fun in China and I met a lot of wonderful people, and I don’t want anyone reading this to think that I hate Chinese people or think they’re all racist. But there IS a prevalent culture of anti-blackness in China, at least in some of the smaller cities, that goes unchecked because there is no impetus for them to change their ways. In the West, even though we have our own myriad issues with racism, we have a system that (at least in theory) holds us accountable for our racist words and actions. That system doesn’t exist in China.
Ugh I can see it all too well. It’s in line with what I see in Korea as well, although we’ve learned to be a little sneakier about it and at least we didn’t cut Finn’s scenes (today in the realm of low bars…) Antiblackness in Asia is really serious–like in India there were actual mobs against African residents and a hit movie had villains in blackface–and it needs to be discussed more.
Should have included a link in the op, but I was too busy laughing my ass off.
For extra laugh points see the fawning comments in the notes. Major, well-known fans still support her and believe she deserves forgiveness . It’s why I think she’ll be back, because time and time again she has shown she is unable to stay away from that psychological feed. She has, quite fittingly, chosen a section of fandom that validates and rewards toxic behavior and it’s perfect for her.
white person: i wanna go back in time when (describes time when white folks were crazy racist and xenophobic and owned slaves and thought scientific racism was real and wanted to wipe out entire minority groups) to fulfill my dream aesthetics
right..
Isn’t that pretty much what antebellum style plantation weddings are about
So the cop lost his temper and started beating up this kids mom. The kid intervened and the cop pinned him to the ground. While he was already pinned to the ground and not fighting, the cop shot him point blank. And the jury ruled that a reasonable use of lethal force. Am I reading this right? Who are these bootlicking pieces of shit they keep getting for these juries?
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