hapslock:

eclecticstudentwriter:

succubus-is-smol:

black-hippie-moonchild:

17mul:

phoenixwolf876:

lovelynemesis:

This has happened to me before when I was in college at a frat party. This girl comes squeezing herself in between me and my friend and throws her arms around me. “Amanda, I am so glad you decided to come!” I was so confused and just figured she was drunk and mistaked me for someone else, until I saw the panic on her face. She leaned close and whispered that a guy was following her, was certain that he had put something in her drink and if I would please play along. I looked behind her and sure enough, some creep was watching her like a hawk. We invited her to hang out with us the rest of the night and even waited until her ride showed up just to make sure she was safe. Always look out for each other!

If you ever feel scared like this just come up to me like we have been friends since kindergarten, call me any name u can come up with ill play along.

🗣

👌🏾

Stay together, stay safe

Perfect advice.
I’m reblogging this as a guy, because first of all, if you”re a guy : DON’T DO THAT. Don’t be that creep.

And if you’re a guy and you notice some creep is following or stalking a girl, and that she’s obviously uncomfortable or panicked, go ahead and say hi, long time no see, pretend to be her cousin, and tell her discretly you noticed there was a shady guy. Ask her if something’s wrong, if she feels unsafe, if she wants your help (very important – she may not trust you enough, no one could blame her, don’t take it personally). (and don’t you dare take advantage of the help you offered for a flirt opportunity, that would make you no better than the creep)

We can all stop “witnessing and do nothing”, and set an example.

Alternative option for a guy: if you feel safe doing so, go up to the creeper who’s following her and be like “hey WHAT’S UP bud do you like SPORTS? My favourite team is the redsox what’s YOURS my man? What you DRINKING dude that looks GOOD.” and be friendly and just loud enough to blow his cover. Draw attention to him and see what he does. He won’t feel as safe creeping if he knows people are looking at him, and maybe he’ll leave. It also means the woman won’t have to worry that you are *another* creeper she has to be wary of, and you may distract the bad dude enough to give her a chance to lose him.

Reblogging for that last comment.

there’s stuff i need to correct about an ask you answered about oscar’s benefit concert. 1) it was a benefit, which was why the cast showed up, to support oscar’s efforts to help with the situation in guatemala, you guys don’t need to make it sound like a social call & 2) the person that posted the pictures of adam and daisy is a poe/oscar stan that hates reylo and doesn’t give a shit about adam, she was just trying to be nice to the people asking her questions and got bullied for it anyway.

lj-writes:

Thank you for the correction. I was getting so many conflicting reports about it and was having a hard time finding information for myself. This was London for Guatemala, right? I think people may have been confusing it with an earlier benefit event, LA for Guatemala, which was a private show. Doesn’t mean John had any more obligation to attend than if it was a private event, of course, but it’s good to know the facts. And since it wasn’t a private event it was wrong of me to call the person who took pictures a stalker. I’ll find and delete or correct those posts. I’m very sorry she was harassed, no one deserves that 😦

Mmkay, on being shown some of the pics I’m still going to have to go with
“stalker.” I’m not spreading that shit around but Daisy was clearly
surreptitiously filmed at times without her knowledge. Also maybe it’s because I haven’t seen all the pics (some of these posts were since deleted, thank goodness) or there are different sets of pics floating around, but this Oscar stan evidently took no pictures of Oscar? Not that I’d be okay with that if they were taken without his consent?

I mean how ironic in this context that “stan” originally comes from “stalker fan…”

lj-writes:

Heads up, thesovereignempress is back after deleting and her new URL
is @sithlightsaber. If you had her blocked before, you should block
again because this is a remade blog and not a URL change. I highly
recommend everyone do this because she deleted the last time around for
stalking/doxxing and should be considered actively dangerous. Also, if
you have had run-ins with her, please take measures to keep your
information private and delete any links between your fandom stuff and
your RL identity. This is a good idea in general anyway.

(To the shippers creeping on the anti tag–I have been told that some of
you have links to your personal social media accounts on your blog.
Like tell your friends to SHUT THAT SHIT DOWN If they haven’t already,
my God not only is that a fucking stupid idea in principle, you’re in a
section of a fandom with a known doxxer, including people who still
support her and had the gall to “forgive” her when the victim did not.
Use some basic common sense, PLEASE.)

The shitty doxxer’s old URL is now a receipts blog of her stalking and doxxing activities
and seems to be run by someone interested in keeping the record
accurate, so if you’re curious about what happened give it a look.

Addendum: Don’t assume she’s deleted again because the blog looks empty when you visit it. The blog is there as of the morning of August 2, 2018 EST, it’s just coded to display an empty blog when accessed by a blocked account. You can try visiting with a different account (not logged out, because it’s a login-only blog) to verify this. Block regardless, because she has been known to interact with people while hiding behind her own block. Stay safe, everyone.

Heads up, thesovereignempress is back after deleting and her new URL
is @sithlightsaber. If you had her blocked before, you should block
again because this is a remade blog and not a URL change. I highly
recommend everyone do this because she deleted the last time around for
stalking/doxxing and should be considered actively dangerous. Also, if
you have had run-ins with her, please take measures to keep your
information private and delete any links between your fandom stuff and
your RL identity. This is a good idea in general anyway.

(To the shippers creeping on the anti tag–I have been told that some of
you have links to your personal social media accounts on your blog.
Like tell your friends to SHUT THAT SHIT DOWN If they haven’t already,
my God not only is that a fucking stupid idea in principle, you’re in a
section of a fandom with a known doxxer, including people who still
support her and had the gall to “forgive” her when the victim did not.
Use some basic common sense, PLEASE.)

The shitty doxxer’s old URL is now a receipts blog of her stalking and doxxing activities
and seems to be run by someone interested in keeping the record
accurate, so if you’re curious about what happened give it a look.

jewishcomeradebot:

captainamericagf:

captainamericagf:

watching the reylo fandom implode is pretty funny but it’s also sad bc we’ve known for over two years that you guys are toxic as hell and it was bound to come to this lol

@jewishcomeradebot ok so long story short, thesovereignempress made a callout for a racist fic writer which was actually justified (though in the callout she said she was totally ok with the rape and abuse? lol) but somehow things escalated really quickly and she found the writer’s personal private facebook page and like threatened blackmail and gave away the writers husbands and mothers names so then this started a whole thing with doxxing and reylos basically took either the side of “doxxing is ok” or “racism is ok” and now empress deleted for the second time this year and the whole fandom is like. torn apart lol. it’s wild.

That… was a wild ride to read. not surprised that Her Royal Pain in the Arse was in the middle of that.

All I really have to say is that I hope that the schmuck is gone for good this time. But a heads up to everyone, if she comes back you’ll all need to block her again.

Holy shit are these people even real

lj-writes:

lj-writes:

I challenge that particularly awful Re/ylo to come out and say John worships white pus*y. Be consistent, you nasty fuck.

Something about Finnreys and/or antis worshipping white p*ssy because we ship Finnrey over Finnrose. It was so ugly I didn’t reblog and tried to forget about it, but I remember the post was made and who made it.

@shannanigansandmisadventures I wouldn’t be surprised if that’s a party line among them, since the particular post I saw was by a fairly popular blog. I had Rose/TLJ stans stalk my blog for weeks too, for writing properly tagged posts criticizing the character and the movie.

reyloisrancid:

waltdisneyconfessions:

“I’m a cosplayer and I made the mistake of cosplaying Kylo Ren at a convention in my state. Everything was fine until these two girls obsessed with Reylo started following me almost everywhere. The only place I could get away from them was in the bathroom. Once I was there, I managed to get help from a few other male cosplayers and they helped me get to my hotel room. I’m never dressing up as Kylo again.”

Yikes. At least this has a happy ending. That sucks OP

It’s awful that he was scared away by stalking assholes from something that gave him joy, and that he spent money and time on.

ReyL* fandom gives be brutal flashbacks to the whole TJL/C thing that swept j0hnl0ck fandom. Even they made every single promo, interview, word, stray strand in a frame as clue or foreshadowing ship being canon. As a fellow johnl0cker I was embarassed and frightened to even say anything against that ship becoming canon, not without being called names or being mocked by the believers, it was just horrid. When it didn’t happen their blacklash was ugly, saying they’d better ideas than show writers!

leg-grestrade:

lj-writes:

@bbcumbercutey replied:

lj-writes:

Noah Fence but the way I hear the show went (I dropped it at the pilot) having better ideas than the writers seems like a low bar. That’s what fanfiction is for, though, right? I get wanting a ship to be canon–and I’m a lot more sympathetic to the ship you mention than to reelo–but blowing every little “clue” out of proportion and, worse, mocking people for disagreeing, that’s just being a conspiracy-theory hawking asshole.

I’m also reminded of the worst behaviors of zootarians from the ATLA fandom. This was another great ship that had a dedicated group of asshole shippers who insisted it HAD to be canon, that it was ALREADY canon, and, after the show ended, that it was ACTUALLY canon and they were ROBBED. To this day, almost a decade after the show ended and after we’ve had sequels featuring the actual main ship’s children and grandchildren, this contingent spreads conspiracy theories about a secret fourth season, the head writer being strongarmed by the producers and so forth.

It gives me all sorts of schadenfreude that there’s a significant overlap between disappointed Zitarians and reynos. So much for their infallible powers of analysis.

It poped in my tumblr app, so I hope you don’t mind If I add. With BBC Sherlock both writers admitted that they put those gay references

as jokes

cause they thought it was funny. So it’s fair to discuss the

queerbaiting. Also the general writing just went completely down the loo with last season, ratings dropped, many critics trashed it and the writers began to blame press, fans and even went into denial that ratings dropped. So it’s a bit different story.

It’s fine, I tried to disguise the spellings but I see the dark Tumblr magic is at work again. I don’t mean to imply the writers’ behavior in regards to JohnLock was good, except maybe with being clear (in vain, it turns out) that it was not happening. I only know of the whole mess from hearsay and a really long video which I didn’t fully watch, and according to those sources the show actually mocks the fans for trying to read some deeper meaning into it, for essentially trying to fix the writers’ mistakes. So I don’t expect much from the creative team, but treating gay references as a joke is a whole new low.

I am sympathetic to the ship itself as I said, it’s just the lengths some fans went to esp. in regards to mocking and being rude to other fans that I disagree with. The rational thing to do would have been to recognize the show, especially in later seasons, for the turd it was and drop it, or at least accept the pairing was not coming to pass and write copious amounts of fanfic. There was never any call for whipping up false hope and snapping at other fans.

I was in BBC Sherlock from the start. TJLC scuttled the fandom. A few BNFs literally had their minions stalk, harrass and in some cases, racially taunt people who had the nerve to not believe in the magic of TJLC. Reylo fandom is very much like it.

OH GOD WHY IS FANDOM SO HORRIBLE WHY

geekandmisandry:

lj-writes:

callmegoddess618:

motherbychoice:

lj-writes:

geekandmisandry:

lj-writes:

geekandmisandry:

geekandmisandry:

geekandmisandry:

geekandmisandry:

The girl next door is crying hysterically. I’ve called the police. I can hear screaming. I’m fucking shaking.

It’s only been ten minutes since I called the police but I’m freaking. Every now and then I hear her choking, she mentioned a black eye,, she’s sobbing and screaming.

The police station is literally only 1km away and it’s been nearly half an hour.

I don’t know if the police have been, but I know if they did they missed the window. They are now over the fight and listening to music and she’ll cover for him if they call in. I said it was violent and that there was a baby there.

I’m beginning to see why this woman was unconvinced that the police would be a solution. In addition to the abuse likely getting worse after a police visit, I don’t imagine they’ve been helpful in the past.

Is this true that a baby is involved? Could you maybe alert child protective services?

I guess. But I’m worried about that to. The Department Of Child Services, docs, don’t have a great reputation. My grandma used to work/operate a women’s and children’s refuge and she saw them ignore so much abuse in favour of honing in in families that were… Less problematic.

And the other night when they were fighting he said he was going to call docs and say she was an unfit mother and get the child taken into custody, this is HIS child too, and she said if her baby was taken she’d kill herself.

I know people who reported parents giving their 13 year old alcohol, cigarettes and marijuana but docs never even looked into it. And with my brother his ex literally had his kids burn photos of their father (my brother) and scream “burn in hell daddy” as they dud and docs didn’t even contact the mother who did it.

But the other night when the other big fight was happening I was in that house for two hours it’s… Squalid. Every spare inch of the bedroom floor was covered in clothes, there were spilt bongs on the floor, dirty dishes piled up. The baby was covered in vomit and was laying on her stomach, I’m not exactly sure how old she is but she isn’t able to really hold her own head up properly so apparently it’s not great to leave them on their stomach.

I had to pick her up, calm her, change her out of her vomit covered clothes and give her a bottle, which was just cows milk and I don’t think that is normal either?

I’m way out of my depth in terms of knowing what the “right” thing to do is.

I literally cried at your description. Babies shouldn’t be drinking cow’s milk before they’re a year old. While a little can be used in preparing meals once she’s started solids, if she isn’t old enough to hold her head up she’s definitely too young for that. She could be malnourished since she can’t properly digest cow’s milk, and might not be breastfeeding. That poor, poor child.

I can understand your hesitation to call child services, with the awful things you’ve seen. I’m sure they’re available as a last resort when a child is in immediate danger, but that’s often a tough call even for trained professionals to make. Considering the child’s age, conditions, and the food she’s being fed I’d say this comes really, really close, though,

Are there any other services that this woman could access, such as parenting classes for lower-income parents? Maybe there are government services or charities in her area that could get her formula and maybe some clothes and diapers for her baby. Are there any older neighbors with kids who could help out and teach her about her baby’s needs? A social worker who could work with her overall situation? I think this woman badly needs information about how to care better for her baby, and being in contact with caring people in any context may help her leave the abusive situation, too.

This goes without saying, but please check the toll on yourself as well and don’t get more involved than you’re ready to. I’d be careful with this woman, personally–that shit about killing herself if her baby is taken away is really manipulative, even if it comes from a place of understandable desperation and child services’ not-stellar record. If the baby can only be safe and healthy away from her parents (that’s often a big if, of course) then that’s what needs to happen. A child is not their parent’s coping mechanism, and if she becomes a suicide risk due to losing her child–or already is one–she should be getting help for that, not hanging on to a child she can’t adequately care for and threatening others from calling services. Her child’s welfare is not about her.

Obviously it’s much preferable for parents to step up than more children to be thrust on an overburdened system, especially since child services might not intervene anyway. This is such a heartbreaking situation all around, and so difficult.

I think you’re amazing for caring about your neighbor’s situation. You’re a beautiful person and remember always to take care of yourself ❤️

I hate to butt in here, but feeding cow’s milk to an infant that young can actually be deadly. It can cause not only malnourishment but dehydration as well. Not to mention low iron and kidney problems. This child could honestly die if that’s all they are feeding her or suffer life long damage from it. Even if they are just doing so sometimes, it can cause problems. Her life and health is at risk. Not just immediately, but long term as well.

This is a situation where, personally, I would call dcbs/cps.

I would at least call them and file a report. You can at least try that way.

Shit I did not realize the situation was as bad as @motherbychoice said. Yeah, this is way more dangerous than I thought. It’s up to you but I’d call the authorities. Here’s an article about the effect of cow’s milk on babies less than a year old: https://www.karger.com/Article/Pdf/106369

I called the child protection hotline and gave them the information.

I hope this doesn’t come back to bite me, the guy is currently on probation and was SO casually saying really disturbing things the other night, like how she could call the cops but her throat could be slit before they got there. Now when she lived somewhere Elkhart he had people follow her, and how at any given moment he knows where “Chelsea” is because he’s got guys following her too, from context I assume she was an ex.

He also does meth sometimes and, while I know that not all drug users are violent, I’m not really fond of already violent people taking these drugs. He also has big, loud guys as friends who are all apparently very into drugs.

I know it might sound selfish, because there is a little baby involved, but I’m just really hoping there isn’t backlash for me personally.

I asked to be kept anonymous but if he even suspects it could be me then I don’t trust what he might do.

He sounds like a fine specimen of humanity. Honestly with someone like this in the mix I would not blame you for choosing not to be involved, and you’ve already done more than anyone could reasonably ask you to. Thank you for taking action for this woman and her poor child, and please watch out for yourself. Do you have a place to flee to if there’s a sign of trouble? People who could come support you?