Yes telling your child they are fat/useless/stupid or any of that is abuse.
Don’t be abusive. Love your kids and those who trust you and are in your care.
How about unless you’re a parent, shut up.
Hmm no thanks 🙂 as a kid who was abused I have really specific opinions on this.
Don’t hit your kids, thanks
I’m a parent. Don’t hit your kids and don’t tear them down.
I have a Master’s degree in Child Development (and I’m a parent, because I guess that’s the only way to have an opinion on parenting??). Don’t hit your kids. It’s abuse. Don’t belittle them. That’s abuse. Don’t ignore them. That’s neglect.
Care about your kids. Read a couple researched backed parenting books. Stuff your pride, and learn how to be a good parent. It’s not all about instinct.
This last gif is actually really cool when you consider that Kuvira bent the meteor rock (the ferrous fluid) as if it were just a soft metal – while Korra is bending it like water because she’s trained in water bending and knows how to do that. In the words of Guru Pathik: “If you open your mind, you will see that all the elements are one. Four parts of the same whole.” To the Avatar, why can’t rock be water?
That’s an interesting–and disheartening–dichotomy. In fact I can’t think of a lot of Black men/white women romances on the big screen in general. There was a discourse about John as a romantic lead a little while back and I’ve been thinking since then, do even undisputed superstars like Denzel Washington and Will Smith count as romantic leads? Will had Mr. Hitch and Denzel had… The Preacher’s Wife? They both have amazing filmographies and commercial success that few actors of any race could rival and yet I don’t think they could be called romantic leading men like Leonardo Dicaprio or Brad Pitt. It seems to be a combination of Hollywood’s distaste for both interracial romances and Black leading women.
There have been several films that Denzel should have had a romance with the co-lead, but because she was white they nixed it because test audiences didn’t like it.
Will, among many other black actors, has had the love interest changed from the original casting call (black) to someone more racially ambiguous to appeal to audiences (usually mixed with light skin or non-black Latina) by studios.
Hollywood is a mess and it’s still in so many ways operating on the 80s & 90s scale of what sales and what won’t, even though a lot of people want better. All I can say is I hope John is able to break that mold. Or at the very least put some more dents in it. He’s on the right track with starting his own production company to make an impact.
Evidently it wasn’t his own preference, according to the Washington Post (link). He would have been okay with playing interracial romance on screen with white leads, but he knew white men wouldn’t like it.
I love Will and Denzel, but they got to where they are by not rocking the boat. Even in Hancock, where Will was opposite Charlize, it was a relationship of pure destruction. Will was white America’s favorite actor (at least until he started playing roles considered to be white like in iRobot and I Am Legend), but he was kept in his place.
But going back to Finnrey, it’s rarely the fault of the actors or the writing when people don’t see a romantic connection between a white character and a character of color. If it makes someone uncomfortable to see a white person romantically involved with a Black person, it will never read as truly romantic to them.
It’s like how many of us saw a developing love story between Michonne and Rick on The Walking Dead going back to the second season, and when they finally got together most of the fans were totally blindsided.
Continuing a legacy doesn’t mean you have to be taught from scratch, or that you are made to do things you would not do otherwise. The fact that someone is already doing what the legacy represents seems to me an argument for, not against, their being a fitting successor. Han showed Finn and Rey trust and affection that neither of them had known, and Leia continued that by believing in and respecting Finn from the start and showing Rey immediate, unconditional love. Luke’s relationship with Rey was lacking, as was TLJ itself, but at least there’s the aspect of him teaching her with his failures and by overcoming them.
Also, if you recall, the context of the discussion is whether Kylo Ren is an inheritor of the Skywalker legacy. No matter how unsatisfactory you may find the handing of the torch between the old and new trios, it’s far and away more positive than the interactions with the man who destroyed everything his father, mother, and uncle worked for. No matter how you feel about Finn, Rey, and Poe as inheritors of the Skywalker legacy, it can’t be grounds for an argument that Kylo Ren is a better inheritor by virtue of his birth.
Seriously, Kylo being the heir to the Skywalker legacy at this point would send the message that as long as you have important parents you can get away with murder, literally. Along with torture, genocide and so on.
As long as your parents are important enough and you’re a white man, it’s gonna be okay.
Sorry, but that’s a terrible and hateful message to send.
Never forget that Rey had been ready and willing to die with Finn on Starkiller base when she thought he was going to die. She didn’t run, she try to find help, she didn’t do anything but lay down next to the boy she adored and wait for the end. At least they would be together in the end.
Finn:*is unconscious*
Kylo: come with me if you want to live
Rey:*looks back at unconscious Finn* guess I’ll die uwu
sorry this may sound dumb but whats the difference
no worries, let me clear this one up. Lexically, there is no difference, as both freedom fighters and paramilitary are English equivalents for guerrillerxs and guerrilla respectively, the difference lies, however on the implications the terms in Spanish and those in English carry.
As I said, linguistically they’re the lexical equivalents and “accurate translations” of both terms. Yet, it’s particularly interesting that Star Wars is deliberately choosing to use the English equivalents and avoid the use of the loan words altogether (which are actually used in English and have a pretty high degree of occurrence).
It’s interesting because of a) the socio-historical and political context in which the OT sees the light (ie: the Cold War, the US intervention on third world countries to stop the ‘threat of communism’ deposing democratically elected left-wing governments and installing dictatorships to protect US interest/ensure control/stop the spread of left-leaning (esp socialist) governments, which in turned caused guerrillas to spring up… do you really think the fact the Rebel Alliance symbol is redis a coincidence and a purely aesthetic choice? More so when ahem GL himself actually hinted the Empire was, in part, meant to take after the imperialist policies of the US at the time); b) the use of said third world countries cultural traumas as plot devices in most of US modern science fiction-oriented media, star wars included.
And I do not find it surprising in the slightest that it was a Latino whose background is tied specifically with the harms of US interventionism (as Oscar is part Guatemalan and part Cuban) the one who reminded everyone that the Resistance (and by extension, the Alliance) are actually guerrillas, and that the FO (and by extension the Empire) can pretty much be read as a symbolism of the US.
I have repeatedly stated that the “perfect and all-knowing woman exists to teach wayward man” is actually a very regressive and sexist trope, and it intersects with racism when the men in question are MOCs.
This is the point. This trope falls apart in several ways. 1.) the storylines of female characters shouldn’t be about fixing men 2.) female characters shouldn’t shine because the men around them are stupid but because the female character is brilliant 3.) white women lecturing stupid MOC is racist shit.
This nonsense is the worst white feminist, fake feminist crap. It’s based on the first tries to somehow make women shine but still bases their entire storylines on men and forgets that women can be brilliant on their own without having to dumb the men around them down. It’s this idea that a women among smart men can’t shine and that if a brilliant woman meets a stupid man it’s her job to help him. Why??
And if you then take into consideration that two MOC were turned into racist stereotypes to achieve this storytelling, there is truly nothing to salvage.
i dont want girls sexualising mlm relationships anymore. at all
i dont want them fetishizing our relationships bc they think it’s sexy
i dont care if its a “way for them to express their sexuality”. that aint right and its messed that they can say that they want men in the porn industry to stop fetishizing wlw relationships, only to do the same bc its “fandom”
can yall please reblog this actually ??
bc like. im a boy attracted to boys. and this is making me uncomfortable and i want it to stop
and im not the only one ? a handful of people have agreed with me and im sure there are more
please dont ignore this bc you want to keep writing/drawing/reading m/m porn…. or bc im a boy and you dont care what i have to say….. especially if you disagree with the treatment of wlw in the porn industry its a double standard and this is important to me and i dont want it to be swept under the rug
Add on: you can still write, draw and read about mlm without fetishizing them. By fetishization, OP means that you only see these relationships as sexy and sinful instead of just seeing it as average everyday relationships.
Nearly every girl I’ve met within fandoms with mlm ships has only focused on the men having sex or calling them ‘my nasty gay babies’ and that’s just gross.
We’re all writers here so I thought it important that y’all see this and take note.
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